In the words of Archie Bunker, “Good night nurse!” Children should not be used as props to achieve a social agenda. I think the parents of little Coy Mathis should be arrested for child abuse for confusing this poor child!
A Colorado family has filed a civil rights complaint with the state after a school banned their transgender first-grader from using the girls' restroom.
Coy Mathis, 6, was born male, but wears girls' clothing and students and staff use female pronouns when referring to her.
For the past year, Coy, a first-grader at Eagleside Elementary School in Fountain, has used the girls' bathroom on campus.
But the Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund (TLDEF) said Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8 changed its policy in December. After winter break, district officials said Coy could no longer use the girls' bathroom and ordered Coy to use either the boys' bathroom, a staff bathroom, or the nurse's bathroom.
"By forcing Coy to use a different bathroom than all the other girls, Coy's school is targeting her for stigma, bullying and harassment," said Michael Silverman, TLDEF's executive director, and one of Mathis' lawyers.
"You see a little girl walk into the boys' bathroom, that's setting her up in an unsafe situation. Or you see her having to walk quite a ways from her classroom to the adult staff bathrooms or the nurse's restroom and you're singling her out when you do that. You're creating a stigma that doesn't need to be created," said Kathryn Mathis, the child's mother.
Mathis said Coy is a triplet -- there was Coy, her brother, Max, and her sister, Lilly. Coy also has a younger sister, Auri, and an older sister, Dakota. But Coy has always identified herself as a girl, the child's mother said.
"We started noticing when Coy was about 18 months, as soon as she started expressing herself, she was really expressing that she was a girl. Of course, our thought at the time was that she was a little boy who liked girls' things. It wasn't until she started becoming depressed and anxious that we knew there was something else going on and took her to medical professionals, who then, in fact, told us she was transgender," Mathis said.
She said when Coy was forced to dressed like a boy and forced to cut her hair, she became very anxious and depressed.
"We couldn't get her to leave the house, go the playground, play with friends," Mathis said. "She would break down crying. She was so deeply unhappy and a 3-year-old or 4-year-old shouldn't be that unhappy and that was when we sought professional help."
The family has filed a complaint with the Colorado of Division of Civil Rights, which will make a determination if Coy's civil rights have been violated. If the school district or the family disagrees with the ruling, then that would lead to an appeal in the form of a lawsuit.
"Through the Colorado Anti-Discrimination Act, Coloradans have made it clear that they want all Colorado children to have a fair and equal chance in school," Silverman said. "Coy's school has the opportunity to turn this around and teach Coy's classmates a valuable lesson about friendship, respect and basic fairness."
This is the first case to challenge a restriction on a transgender person's bathroom use under Colorado's Anti-Discrimination Act.
"It is not appropriate for the school to place a bulls eye on her back by saying she's so different from every other student that she has to use a bathroom that no other student uses. That is not an acceptable outcome," Silverman said.
The family has since withdrawn Coy from the school but hopes to have her back in the classroom soon. Mathis said while Coy was at the school for kindergarten and first-grade, there were never any issues with other parents or students about Coy's gender.
"We want her to be treated like every other girl at school," Silverman said.
The Mathis family said they understand that their decision to fight for Coy to use the girls' bathroom will bring unwanted attention and criticism.